Tuesday, January 12, 2010
The Male Factor Book Review & Giveaway
Based on a nationwide survey and confidential interviews with more than three thousand men, bestselling author of For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn, has written a startling and unprecedented exploration of how men in the workplace tend to think, which even the most astute women might otherwise miss. In The Male Factor, Feldhahn investigates and quantifies the private thoughts that men almost never publicly reveal or admit to, but that every woman will want to know.
Never before has an author gotten inside the hearts and minds of men in the workplace—from CEOs to managers, from lawyers to factory workers—to get a comprehensive and confidential picture of what men commonly think about their female colleagues, how they view flextime and equal compensation, what their expected “rules” of the workplace are, what managing emotion means, and how that lowcut top is perceived. Because the men in the surveys and interviews were guaranteed anonymity, they talk in a candid and uncensored way about their daily interactions with women bosses, employees, and colleagues, as well as what they see as the most common forces of friction and misunderstanding between men and women at work.
Among the subjects The Male Factor tackles are:
• how men, with rare exception, view almost any emotional display as a sign that the person can no longer think clearly—as well as what they perceive to be “emotion” in the first place (it’s not just crying)
• why certain trendy clothes that women wear may create a career-sabotaging land mine in terms of how male colleagues perceive them
• the unintentional signals that can change a man’s perception of a woman from “assertive and competent” to “difficult”
Women will likely be surprised, even shocked, by these revelations. Some may find them challenging. Yet what they will gain is an invaluable understanding of how their male bosses, colleagues, subordinates, and customers react to a host of situations—as well as the ability to correct common misperceptions. The Male Factor offers a unique road map to what men in the workplace are thinking, allowing women the opportunity to decide for themselves how to use the insights Feldhahn reveals.
About The Author:
SHAUNTI FELDHAHN is the best-selling author of For Women Only:What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women. Her books have sold two million copies and have been translated into fifteen different languages. A longtime nationally sydicated columnist, she holds a master's degree in public policy from Harvard University, has worked on Wall Street, and now lives in Atlanta, Georgia.
I am familiar with Shaunti Feldman's previous work entitled "For Women Only" so when I had the opportunity to review her most recent work, The Male Factor, I jumped at the chance.
Throughout my adult career life, and now as a mom working out of my home, I rarely had the chance to work with men. Seriously, in the last 10-15 years I have only ever worked with a handful of men. That said. I did very much enjoy this book. It was full of information about what men think and feel about life and their careers, especially in the light of a large increase of women in the workforce.
Feldhahn has done a huge amount of research in order to write this book, as well as for her "For Women/Men/Couples Series". It blew me away when she stated that her surveys included 600 men, as well as countless interviews, and she interviewed a control group of 100 female executives, all with complete privacy guaranteed.
Though I have not worked in corporate business situations, I am not blind to those who do. I am a huge advocate of modesty in the appearance of women and female children and young adults. And from what I have observed, there is often a lack of modesty present among women who work in corporate America/Canada.
Whether intentional or unintentional, Feldhahn discusses just how much what a woman wears can impact her career. This is seen in Chapter 10 of The Male Factor. Through her research, Feldhahn discovered that men saw women as "visually distracting" more often than women did. Many of the men she interviewed (including Christian men) stated that they often were distracted so much by a woman's appearance that they often forgot what the conversation was about. She went on to express to the reader the importance of dressing in such a way that your work will be paid attention to, not your body or clothing.
This book was very insightful for me. I have learned many things that I can relate to, not because I work in a corporate job, but because I am married and do come in contact with males in my daily routines and activities. It has allowed me to understand more why men do and say what they do. I particularly took great note of the section about not taking things personally. This is something I am very bad at doing. I know that when my husband or any other male in my life, makes constructive criticisim, it is exactly that. Its meant to help build me into a better woman of God, not hurt me.
In short, I believe alot of Feldhahn's work will help me build a stronger marriage. It will help all women who read it learn more about the men in your life, whether you work outside the home or not!
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****This book was provided for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group. ****