Monday, July 12, 2010

When Love Ends...: Blog Tour and Giveaway


About The Book:

While most books for singles tell readers how to get the next guy, When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton is Empty encourages a healthy healing process. Practical and biblically based, each chapter guides the reader through a metaphorical day of restoration. Twilight recognizes and deals with endings, night validates and grieves the loss, dawn awakens hope, and day is the new beginning based on the solid assurance of Christ.

Read an Excerpt

Twilight is a time of transition. As late afternoon fades into evening, the vivid colors of day disappear, and the sun, low in the horizon, dips slowly into earth’s edge. In the dimness before nightfall it becomes increasingly hard to see. Soon it will be dark. Likewise, a relationship ending is your own “heartsunset.” Good-bye day; good-bye love.
WHY BREAKUPS HAPPEN
As early evening settles in, dusk becomes an ambiguous zone. With less light, things can seem uncertain or unclear, like why your relationship ended. Sometimes you are left without the answers or closure you want, and you wrack your brain trying to figure out what went wrong. He was indifferent, he just couldn’t commit, or he was immature. Maybe you were the one who couldn’t do it anymore, and you were just plain done. Perhaps you finally realized that you didn’t really have that much in common after all, or the timing was bad, or he found someone else. Maybe you know exactly why you split up, and it makes you livid, depressed, or resentful. There are as many reasons as there are relationships. There’s always the “I don’t know what I want right now” explanation or the fear factor. Maybe you never had any good role models in your life of what a healthy love relationship or marriage looks like and it scares you to death. You’re afraid to trust because you don’t want to end up in an unhealthy, dysfunctional, or boring relationship—or one
that falls apart again.
I was surprised when a man I’d been getting to know online for a few months sent me an e-mail to break things off by saying, “I was looking at my calendar for the next year and I’m going to be really busy.”Well then what were the past four let’s-get-to-know-each-other-better months about? Was he really busy or was he afraid of a commitment? I guess I’ll never know. Sadly, you may never know the real reason why the person you once shared everything with will now tell you nothing.
Whether the final send-off came gradually or you were blindsided, endings are never easy. Katy and Will enjoyed a year of Saturday night indie films and Starbucks runs before Will shocked her one summer afternoon when he said he couldn’t see himself marrying her. But he still wanted to “hang out,” and Katy,
not wanting to lose him entirely, continued to see Will for six more months—and in the process lost herself and her self respect. Finally, she could no longer endure the emotional turmoil of longing and lack, hoping that one day he would come around. As she began to learn more about her true worth and value, she courageously broke it off entirely.
Unlike Katy’s drawn-out breakup, Chaundra’s ending was sudden. Darren exited as quickly as he entered her life. He was a “comet” dater—burn fast, burn
bright, and burn out. From the day they met at her best friend’s house, Darren called her every day (sometimes two or three times a day). After a few weeks of spending all of their free time together, he just stopped calling. No explanation. The next Saturday Chaundra saw Darren with another woman at a café and she was heartbroken.
RESPONDING TO “THE END”
Then there’s your story. When you end a significant relationship, you may feel a hundred different emotions, from some snarly name-calling or a disillusioned, “I really thought this would go somewhere,” to a despondent, “How am I going to get over him? ”You’re sad, angry, confused, hurt, depressed, and some days you just want to sob with your two new best friends, Ben and Jerry (and their ridiculously good frozen treats).
Everyone responds to loss and pain differently. For some of us it takes longer to absorb the changes, adjust, and begin again. Whether you were together for a long time or a short time, you may have had a close, deep connection. Your personality, temperament, and background all make a difference in how you deal with emotional pain (or don’t) and how long it takes to heal.
If you’re the one breaking it off, you may be hurting someone you care about (or once cared about) and that can bring a host of emotions from guilt and shame to remorse and blame. No matter what the guy says—like the classic, “it’s not you, it’s me”—or how he says it (in person or by phone, fax, letter, e-mail, text, or other electronic media), your relationship has ended .Game over. You’re not together anymore. Now what?
About The Author:


Jackie M. Johnson is an accomplished author and freelance writer who has a passion for helping people who’ve experienced brokenness. Her first book, Power Prayers for Women has sold almost 200,000 copies. A Milwaukee native and graduate of Trinity International University, Jackie lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
You can visit Jackie online athttp://whenloveends.com/ and at her bloghttp://anewdaycafe.blogspot.com/.

My Review:

This is the first of Jackie Johnson's books I have read, and I have to say I was impressed. Though I am not currently in a life stage where I am dealing with a broken relationship, this was a wonderful read. In many ways, this book is your typical self-help book in that it teaches the reader how to handle a break up, what to expect in the healing process and how to move on from a relationship breakup. However, it is so much more than that. Johnson will take you on a journey from a broken heart to a hopeful heart because of God's healing.

This well-written and easy-to-read book is divided up into four parts, that will take you through the process of moving on with grace and hope! I love that each of the four parts tackles a different part of the grieving process. I also love that at the end of each chapter has a prayer, encouraging verses and questions that the reader can ask oneself as you travel your journey.

Although specifically written for those dealing with healing after a broken relationship, there were a number of comments made in the book that really resonated with me. Here is just one:

"When we surrender out will, we learn to rely on God totally and trust that He has something better suited for us and that He will provide. As you release your grip on whatever it is that you are holding to so tightly, and replace it with Jesus (and His unchanging truth), He will restore your weary, wayward, or willful heart and lead you to brighter days" (p. 76)

If you are dealing with a broken relationship or know someone who is, then you have to read this book! It will change your life and will draw you to the most important relationship of all, the one with the Lord! I highly recommend this book and give it a huge thumbs up!

BUY IT: You can purchase When Love Ends and The Ice Cream Carton Is Empty online, from Amazon.com and Amazon.ca - it is also available through your favorite local bookseller.


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