In the last year I have resolved to do whatever I can to make my marriage the number one priority in my life! I have realized there are things I could be doing better as a wife, not only to directly impact our marriage but to be an example of a Godly wife to my children.
I have sought out a number of resources, along with my personal study of a Biblical wife and one book that I have recently read is The Husband Project by Kathi Lipp
About The Book:
Do you feel like your marriage has gone from "I do" to "What did I do?" Recapture the romance that made you and your husband fall in love in the first place. The Husband Project provides 21 days of fun activities to show love and honor to your husband. Kathi Lipp will help you discover:
- Proven ways to return fun and flirting to your marriage.
- Inner assurance to meet your husband’s unspoken emotional needs.
- Increased confidence when it comes to meeting your husbands sexual needs.
- New levels of warmth and tenderness in your relationship.
- A deeper sense of security with your husband.
- A greater ability to boost your husband’s belief in himself.
Kathi Lipp helps women renovate their life with projects for the soul. She is a national speaker and author who inspires thousands each year to take beneficial action steps in their personal, marital, and spiritual lives. Her wit and wisdom will give you new ways to:
- Avoid settling for less than God’s loving plan for your life.
- Develop new levels of warmth and tenderness with your spouse.
- Return fun and flirting to your marriage.
- Boost your confidence to follow God-given dreams and goals.
- Create an environment of encouragement in your friendships
Kathi is the author of The Husband Project: 21 Days to Loving Your Man on Purpose and with a Plan and The Marriage Project: 21 Days to Reigniting Your Relationship (coming Fall, 2009). In addition, her articles have appeared in Today’s Christian Woman, Bay Area Parent, Focus on the Family, Discipleship Journal, and Christian Parenting Today.
Church leaders and women’s ministry directors rely on Kathi to help women move from living out of obligation to enjoying godly passion. She shares her cheerful humor and biblical insights over 45 times a year at conferences and retreats.
Kathi and her husband, Roger, are parents of four teenagers and live in San Jose, California. They are members of Church on the Hill where Roger is the programming director of the worship arts ministry.
Renovate your life with a project for your soul!
Q&A with Kathi
Kathi, why did you want to write The Husband Project?
When my husband and I got married, I was determined not to be like so many other couples who turned from romantics to roommates in a matter or months. But, like everyone else, we got back form the honeymoon and had kids and bills and home repairs waiting. It wasn’t long until I packed away the lingerie and was wearing sweats to bed. I knew that if I wasn’t intentional about keeping my husband a priority, it would be easy to let him fall to the middle of my to-do list. I had to get desperate and creative – that is how The Husband Project was born.
Tell me, how does The Husband Project work?
The Husband Project is like a workout program for your marriage – only with less sweat and more chocolate. You commit to do fun and flirty things for 21 days to raise the temperature of your marriage – everything from flirty notes on the bathroom mirror to more lingerie in the bedroom. It is a little bit of work – and a whole lot of fun.
How did you come up with the Projects?
All of these projects are husband tested and wife approved. First I tried things out on my husband, and then I had a group of over 200 women try some of those projects out on their own men. We took the projects that had the highest flirt factor and put them into the book.
Don’t most women want to do nice things for their husbands? Why do you need a book to do them?
Oh, I totally agree. We all have great intentions, but blessing your man is like making dinner: The hardest part isn’t the cooking, it is deciding what to fix. It is the same with the husband project – all the ideas are pretty simple, but the Projects just lay it out so that it is easy to do.
Give me an example of what a project looks like.
Most of the projects take less than 5 minutes or 5 dollars. One woman made her husband’s favorite brownies and put one on his nightstand every evening for five days. Another wife just casually mentioned to her mother-in-law what an amazing man she had raised in front of her husband. That man lived off that compliment for two weeks. We also collected some of the best low-cost dating ideas from the women who have done The Husband Project and have those up on the website at www.kathilipp.com under Free Resources to give you even more ideas than what are found in the book.
What are Bonus Projects?
Bonus Projects are the PG13 part of The Husband Project. They are once a week assignments to have sex with your husband. (I know you won’t be surprised to find out that these were the husband’s favorite projects.)
Besides the Bonus Projects what were some of the husband’s other favorite projects?
The second most popular category of projects was definitely food. The guys loved it when their wives made something just for them. In fact, it was such a big part of the Project that we had the wives send in their favorite recipes that you can get free on my website kathilipp.com It’s called The Ultimate Guide to Man Food and it is all the guys favorite recipes in one collection.
Why do you want women to keep The Husband Project a secret from their guy?
Look, I would never tell you to keep anything from your husband – that is just bad marriage management. But I think The Husband Project should be the exception. I wasn’t upset when my husband threw me a surprise party – this is the same type of situation.
I LOVED this book! It is a 21 day journey that will help you really learn to take time for your husband and in the process really change your marriage. Filled with fun activities, real life stories and encouragement, you will not look at your marriage the same after reading The Husband Project. The book starts off with explaining the importance of The Husband Project and how to plan and implement it. Then you are taken through three weeks of projects you complete to "love your man on purpose". All the projects are easy to implement and can be as simple or extravagant as you make them. I have done a few of the projects and it has been so much fun taking time for my husband in such a deliberate manner, even without him realizing I am doing a "project".
As Valentine's Day is just around the corner, I felt it would be great to participate in Lipp's 5 Day Blogger Mini Husband Project. So over the next five days I am going to introduce you to a project and challenge you to love on your husband too!
If you are looking for a "true, real life" way to rejuvenate your marriage, I highly recommend The Husband Project
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