Early marriage might not be a problem; instead, it might just be a solution. In Young and in Love, Pastor Ted Cunningham boldly suggests that early marriage is not as harmful as many believe and even offers the solution to staying sexually pure. He guides young adults through the arguments against early marriage and then reveals the secrets to creating a healthy, successful, and life-long relationship in early adulthood.
Young men and women fall in love. They develop intense desires to be with one another emotionally, relationally, and, yes, sexually. Cunningham validates this budding relationship and chases the foxes that seek to delay or destroy the bud before it can turn into a blossoming marriage (Song of Solomon 2:15). He praises this budding love, calling family and friends to recognize it with a wedding, and challenges all unnecessary delays to marrying in one’s early twenties.
Developing a godly relationship can be hard when you fall in love at a young age. Few people offer support. Many doubt your love is real. It seems almost everyone—your friends, your parents, even your church—thinks you are much too young for marriage. You’re not ready. But maybe that’s not true. Cunningham explains where the arguments against young marriage often go wrong. Then he offers wisdom on how to know if you are making the right choice including the Four C’s: Character, Chemistry, Competency, and Calling. He’ll help readers understand what it takes to be ready for marriage. And along the way he’ll show that the answer to staying pure might be to prepare for marriage. Because it’s often easier to say, “Let’s wait” when “I do” isn’t so far away.
According to Cunningham, “Ultimately, Young and in Love honors marriage and encourages marriages in the making. This is not another purity book teaching you how to suppress any and all feelings of love. No way! I want you to express your love and then enjoy marriage. So if you kissed dating goodbye, it’s time to say hello! If you have kept true love waiting, I tell you now, wait no more. Get married!” Young and in Love packs a mighty hard punch in a velvet glove of humor and wit. Readers will feel validated in their young love, they will be given the tools to make a wise commitment, and they will be challenged not to delay what God is knitting together.
About The Author:
Ted Cunningham is the founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church in Branson, Missouri. He is the co-founder of Two Ignite, a local church movement created to strengthen marriage through adventure. Ted is a speaker with the Smalley Relationship Center and has co-authored four books with Dr. Gary Smalley: The Language of Sex, From Anger to Intimacy, As Long As We Both Shall Live, and Great Parents, Lousy Lovers. He has been a guest on Focus on the Family, Life Today, and Moody Radio. He is a graduate of Liberty University and Dallas Theological Seminary.
Cunningham loves seeing lives changed, marriages rescued, and families saved. He met his wife Amy on a blind date at Liberty University and determined to marry her that night. Although he didn’t ask her then, she said “yes” to his proposal a year later. Now married for 15 years, they both love taking road trips and boating on Table Rock Lake with their two kids who reside with them in Branson, MO.
Young and in Love by Ted Cunningham is a book that challenges all traditional thinking about dating and marriage.
Cunningham is a huge advocate of marrying young and not waiting for the typical reason people wait to get married. Like having careers settled, debt paid off, school finished, etc. In his opinion, why wait, if you are in love? This book needs to be read by anyone who is in a dating/engaged relationship and facing opposition from family and friends because "you are too young, etc, etc". I was 25 and heard it (we dated only 2 months when we got engaged, married a year later)...and now I have been married almost 14 years, after many did not think that we would last! Of course, life is not easy, and there have been ups and downs, but if we had waited to get married until debt was paid off, we still wouldn't be married! So glad I did not wait to marry my best friend!
The book is full of humor and yet is serious at times too, with a very Biblically sound references as well. Although the author advocates young marriage, he does not advocate reckless dating. Far from it. You still have to look for someone you have chemistry with, one that has strong character, that you feel God is calling you to marry, and is competent (he calls it the 4 C's, but that is the only spoiler you get - you really should read the book).
It is book that needs to be read by teenagers, parents, youth ministry staff, and pastors alike. Cunningham's style may put off those with "traditional" thinking, but don't let that scare you. Pray as you start this book, and allow God to show you what you need to see, and you may realize that your comfort zone has enlarged in the process.
I highly recommend the book and give it a huge thumbs up!
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