Saturday, January 17, 2015

Growing Up Social: A Book Review and GIVEAWAY!!!

About The Book:

Is technology bringing your family closer together or driving you farther apart?

Children today are no longer playing hide-and-seek outside or curling up with a good book - instead they've been introduced to a world of constand digital entertainment through television, video games, and mobile devices. And while technology has the potential to add value to our lives and families, it can also erode a sense of togetherness and hinder a child's emotional and social development.

In Growing Up Social, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane will empower you with the necessary tools to make positive changes...starting today. Through stories, wit, and wisdom, you'll discover how to take back your home from an overdependence on screens. Plus, you'll learn to teach the five A+ skills that every healthy child needs to master: affection, appreciation, anger management, apology, and attention.

  • Equip your child to be relationally rich in a digital world
  • Replace mindless screen time with meaningful family time
  • Establish simple boundaries that make a huge difference
  • Discover what's working for families that have become screen savvy
  • Learn healthy ways to occupy your child while you get things done
Now is the time to equip your child to live with screen time, not for screen time. No phone, tablet, or gaming device can teach your child how to have healthy relationships - only you can.

About The Authors:

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of 31 Days to a Happy Husband and 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. She has been a featured guest on Fox & Friends, The Today Show, The Better Show, TLC’s Home Made Simple, The 700 Club, Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah and Family Life Today radio. 

 Gary Chapman, PhD, is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages. With over 30 years of counseling experience, he has the uncanny ability to hold a mirror up to human behavior, showing readers not just where they are wrong, but how to grow and move forward.

My Review:

Growing Up Social was seriously eye-opening about the impact that electronics and the clear addiction to them has on society, and in particular on our kids in today's world. The digital world is a whole new ball game when it comes to parenting. It's such a different world now, then when I was even a kid and teen. Actually, in many ways I am scared for the kids of today, and how easy it is for them to get into serious trouble, and all that they seem to be missing out on when they are always involved with technology in it's many forms.

Throughout the book, the authors share some very startling facts about how much our kids and teens are using electronics and technology. Here are just a few:
  •  High school girls average 4,300 texts a month, while boys trail behind at 2,600 texts a month.
  • The average American child and teenager spends 53 hours a week with media and technology, far more time in front of screens than interacting with parents and people. 
  • 90% of parents allow their children younger than 2 years to watch some form of electronic media
  • 39% of families with infants and young children have their television on at least six hours a day
These are just a few of the numbers that Chapman and Pellicane give in the book, of course attributed to studies done in the last 7-10 years. As an early childhood educator, these numbers don't surprise me. I have seen the interests that many of the children in my care have. Most are related to one form of media or electronics or another. Whether its a favorite tv show or video game, even some of the four-to-six year olds I have worked with are already obsessed with time with electronics.

Growing Up Social gives parents and educators some great ideas for changing the way we use technology but first they explain the A+ skills that children need to master, and how technology has impacted the gaining of these skills. The book has made me aware of tips to use with both my own children, and the children I teach but also it was a massive reminder of how I use technology and how I have to remember that one of my jobs as a parent is to model appropriate use of technology. I am guilty of abusing it and this book has called me on it. Plain and simple.

We already implement a number of screen time ideas from the book, including a 30 minute time limit for tablets/ipods and tv time for the girls, but was very convicted in how I use screen time as well, and will be implementing a few changes myself. 

Added bonuses found in the book include the link to the Five Love Languages website, and how technology can impact our development of our language, a list of social development seen in children (skills impacted by too much technology use) and a fantastic quiz to use to find out if your child has too much screen time. As well, there is a wonderful study guide at the back of the book, perfect for both individual and small group study.

Overall, the book was very well written, interactive, encouraging and well organized. 

I highly recommend this book and give it a huge thumbs up!

BUY IT: You can purchase Growing Up Social online via Amazon

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Growing Up Social

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***I received a complimentary copy of this book, courtesy of Side Door Communications, for the purpose of review on this blog. All opinions expressed are my own, and I have not been compensated in any other manner***


  1. On school nights, the kids are allowed one hour of electronic time. On the weekends, it depends upon what is going on with family activities. They are not allowed to spend the afternoon in their rooms just playing their electronic games.

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  4. I keep popping in on them and checking what is happening.